Normalcy in Eccentricity

We have so many dreams, desires, feelings that we seldom do justice to. We follow the path of so called normalcy and live an unfulfilled life. Since this the football season let me tell you that I have been immensely motivated by the Football Couple at Kolkata. The 81 yr old man and his 70 yr old wife are so passionate about the game that they travel each year since 1982 to the World Cup location .And no they are not rich. They survive on the little pension money received per month and buy selling saris from home. They save every penny they can to make it to the World Cup .They save up on their food as well and merely   survive on the bare minimum. Now we ‘normal people’ would think this to be eccentric right? Think about it. The satisfaction and joy they receive after returning from the World Cup each year, the pleasure of meeting stalwarts like Pele and watching Maradona’s hand of god, when they see their sacrifices bloom into such pleasures? Yes it is eccentricity. But these are the type of people who don’t have any regrets at their deathbeds. But we people have so many. We too have so many desires but we simply let them go , No one can insult yourself more than you by doing such things. And this feeling of repentance, if’s and but’s   ,loads of excuses is more  deep rooted than you will think it is. Such people dont have less problems.The legendary singer, Kishore Kumar was insecure of the money that he earned. He did not even trust the banks, he sowed every penny in his backyard. Now this kind of insecurity is not small. It must have eaten him up ,but he chose to rise above it and do what he is best at, music.Stars like Rowan Atkinson(Mr.Bean),Charlie Chaplin were sufferers, and hence they strived every bit to make the world understand the joy of being happy and feeling lucky for what each one had.Because someone somewhere would feel very rich to live your life. So we need to take that one small step and realize our higher purpose of being and follow our dreams. The kind of joy obtained in being eccentric is immense, something that normal people will not even relate to. Now this choice is in your hands, you want to be normal or eccentric?

Importance of struggling

Gone are those days when one had to struggle for to obtain what we call "basic" today. Be it a car, a house, something that you love or maybe a job. And because of this , success be it in any small sphere was sweet. Jobs these days are so easily obtained by students that they do not value it. Mobile Phones, Ipads etc are so easily obtainable that its no big deal at all. People dont have to struggle hard for this. And this is the primary reason for fights, separations, non satisfaction. This does not have anything to do with wealth or community. Everyones just running that race blindly to obtain obtain and obtain...to such a limit that the small things are neglected, the joy of buying your first car, or completing your degree ,these things are nothing at all these days. People then, valued things and people so much more and found happiness in the smallest things, were satisfied and lived a very abundant life.

"People have forgotten that it is things that  are to be used and not people"

This is also because, one does not want to struggle and always tends to chose the easier path. With everything and information so abundantly available, people seize to work hard. Compare the youth of say 20 years back and now. Youth today is not use less, but definitely used less. With the ease available today we can do wonders, if people then had the liberty and ease of information we have today, they would have without a doubt done and achieved tremendously . There is always a sweetness in struggling. Its about the mind and not material at the end of the day, which people of this generation need to understand. You have to keep struggling your way through be it in any sphere, any dimension, any age and the we need to be so much more down to earth, value family more and strive for excellence for material. Remember, any one can get a job. But once you keep struggling your way through, jobs and people will come running behind you and thats when you can behave like a boss. Not until then. So value small things, small people and work your way through and always be humble.

Everyone has to struggle at some point or the other without which you dont understand the true essence of achievement.

Mind Blowing Conversations

A good conversation is no less than a tonic that can heal us. These days with the growing use of media and technology, seldom do all of us just plain sit and talk. How often do we talk to our parents, say for hours and hours together or for that matter an old friend?Just few days back I happened to bump into an old acquaintance and believe me, we went on and on about life and things that mattered   and the conversation and that amazing feeling just stayed on with me for days. I didn’t feel any better for   years. We are so caught up with our daily activities, our dreams, our lives that we don’t have the time to just talk. In fact I also was talking to my grandmom’s old friend few days ago, and she shared so much with me, about her old days in fact she told me how alone she is that this conversation was definitely not less than a tonic for her. Striking a conversation with someone is actually the easiest thing to do. However we overlook such basic things these and complicate lives for ourselves. There is so much one can learn about and share once one converses. We definitely have to simplify our lives and understand the value and the soothing effect of giving the time and talking to our mates, friends, close acquaintances. In fact at times, conversing with strangers also makes you so happy that you wouldn’t think would do. Not conversing infact stresses one out and misunderstandings arise. These days we all are so hooked on to social networking that we don’t even have an idea about the humongous amount of time we spend doing such unimportant activities and how less we communicate or talk. You wouldn’t realize but there could be such amazing conversation s that could actually last a lifetime. Another important way is writing letters. The closeness and empathy that you felt in a letter doesn’t exist in writing emails. A yet better way..TALK  IT OUT.

As said by Mark Twain-“A mans character maybe learned from the adjectives which he habitually uses in conversation”